I want you to think of your self-care drawer.
We all have one, probably filled with loads of unused face and hair masks, bath extracts, oils and other things we haven’t used yet and – let’s face it – will never. But why are they there then?
Because we think “Hm I will do a self-care day next week and for that I need face masks and bath extracts”.
At least it’s what I do all the time – even though I don’t even have a bathtub. We were taught that self-care means exactly that: skin and body care.
Because the thought of us in a bathtub with our hair rapped up in a towel with bubbles everywhere, wine and a face masks just seems to be wonderful! And don’t get me wrong – it is! And it definitely is a form of self-care to take care of your skin and take relaxing baths.
But it’s not the most important thing that comes with self-care. It’s just one part of a whole process.
So what does self-care mean?
First of all: There is no one size fits all when it comes to self-care. It’s about you and yourself. Not about your best friend, neighbour or the influencers on your instagram feed. It is about you! So when it comes to taking care of yourself it is actually a matter of finding what you need to do to truly take care.
This is important because…
Same as with working out, if it’s not the right thing for you, it won’t last. And especially with taking care of yourself, it would be a shame if you lose track of your wellbeing. So finding a solution that fits you long term is key to a good relation with your mental and physical health.
Because this is what self-care is. Taking care of your mental and physical health.
And yes, if it’s the face masks and bubble baths for you that actually covers that, perfect.
But – and that’s something that I think is almost dangerous – you don’t necessarily take care of yourself just by putting on a face mask and adding extracts to your bath. It might take a bit more to really connect to your sense of wellbeing and your needs.
Wellbeing as an indication and reflection as an instrument
Lately I’ve been reflecting a lot more on why I am doing things the way that I do them and wether it truly works for me. Or not.
And the same with when it comes to self-care. Something that really helps with that are questions. Simple and nothing spectacular just to check back on your decisions and habits. And since I’ve been rambling again, I will hop right into them:
- What does self-care mean to ME?
- What am I doing for myself?
- Why am I doing it like that?
- Are there other things I’d like to do?
- Are there other things I should do?
- Is it working out for me?
- Am I only doing it because people I know are doing it like that?
- How am I feeling in general?
- Is there something that I miss?
- Am I happy where I’m at right now?
- Is there something else for me to do that might be better?
- Am I truly honest with myself?
These are just a few questions that you might wanna ask yourself when starting the journey of finding what self-care means to you. Especially the last question shouldn’t be skipped.
How to self-care
And now that I’ve clarified what I mean by self-care, I want to give you some ideas what you might take into consideration when it comes to taking care of yourself.
- making a meal plan
- getting a new hair cut
- talking to friends
- talking to your family
- walking the dog
- planning your week ahead
- planning new routines
- getting into routines
- deleting old contacts
- drinking a glass of wine
- setting an app-timer
- deleting instagram followers
- unfollowing people
- drinking golden milk
- cuddling with your pet
- going for a run
- working out in general
- cleaning the kitchen
- painting your bedroom
- knitting and crafting
- reading a book or magazine
- doing the laundry
- reorganise the cupboards
- taking photos of your coffee
- planning your next five years
- writing a book
- buying new lingerie
- wearing cozy socks
- booking yourself in for a massage
- going to the dentist
- lighting candles
- cleaning and driving your car
- listening to audio books or podcasts
- making a dance party in the kitchen
- and since I think it’s still a nice thing to do: putting on a face mask and taking a bath
And with that...
I hope I was able to give you some new ideas to change your self-care routine into something more complex and fitting for your needs. Especially on this topic I would LOVE to know your opinions and the things you do for self-care. So definitely feel free to leave them in the comments!
I’m going to treat myself to another round of black coffee now since it’s something that I like to consider it as self-care!